What others are saying...
Bree Turkington
Traveller and Healthy Lifestyle Coach and Consultant
Through Jaxins coaching program I was able to reconnect with what I am passionate about and to break through old belief patterns that were holding me back from following my dreams. Jaxin is very intuitive and is able to dig deep to find out what drives people and make them come alive. Thank you Jaxin, without you I would have never followed my heart to Hawaii, you changed my life.
Deb Shearer
Writer and Raw Food Consultant
Jaxin has a unique method of combining business and heart to access your deepest desires and gently nurture them forth from the layers of intellectual reasoning that hold them captive. Calling you to take action and turn them into a business reality, Jaxin sees, honours and acknowledges you and your greatest potential” A professional and holistic approach to business coaching with magical surprises along the way!
Melissa Redman
Primary School Teacher
I am a primary school teacher. I worked with Jaxin because I wanted to create a vision that I act on and live into being my authentic self. What I got from doing the program is that I do have a unique gift and message to share especially with children. I have created and stepped into running workshops called 'Be Your Best Self' teaching children to value themselves more and to have confidence to allow themselves to shine.
Thanks Jaxin.
Erin Lanahan
Internationally Certified Life Coach, Yoga Instructor, and Motivational Writer and Speaker.
“Happiness is really a deep harmonious inner satisfaction and approval.” ~Francis Wilshire
Acceptance!
This is a word we often toss around, but what does it truly mean? Perhaps the meaning of it ultimately resides within its beholder. I know I have certainly achieved my own understanding of what acceptance means to me and for me, and so far, this definition is ever evolving.
On November 6, 2013, I returned to the United States after having lived in Australia for two and a half years. I spent the majority of my time there studying and practicing yoga and teaching yoga and meditation.
As a teacher, I had to face my attachment to the experience my students had or did not have. I feared that I would not be good enough, that somehow they would find fault in my delivery, and that I would ultimately not be accepted.
Now, let’s be clear, this fear was no new fear. It had haunted me all my life. Becoming a yoga and meditation teacher was just one of the divine blessings that brought this fear to the surface for me to clear and overcome, like nothing had been able to before it.
At the end of last year, I traveled to the Oneness University in India. For thirty-one days we went through many classes, ancient rituals, and ceremonies, and had an abundance of time and opportunity to see ourselves clearly.
The monks lovingly guided us to look at our unconscious fear, pain, suffering, and inauthentic actions.
This was extremely confronting, because most of us had no idea we were operating on a level of such fear.
After that, I went back to Australia and spent the next five months falling apart as I became aware of so much inner dissatisfaction and disapproval. Holy Moly! I sometimes wondered if I’d ever come through it.
During this time, I did some coaching with a woman named Jaxin Brook. In our initial consultation, it became clear how much I longed to feel like I fit somewhere, like I belonged, like I was completely accepted.
She helped me see how I had been going about this with external efforts; I thought if I could up my career game, or perhaps if I moved back to America, or got married, then maybe I would “fit in.”
The truth was, I suffered from internal rejection and an inability to feel like what I was offering, who I was, and where I was at in my life were good enough.
Awareness is the most effective tool for helping me shift from fear to love, from criticism to compassion, and from conditional to unconditional love.
Awakening begins with seeing.
Once I become aware of the way I am currently operating—meaning I can see the inner critic, the judgments, the fear, and the stories—the awareness alone brings light to the darkness or consciousness to the unconscious. This brings about an automatic shift in perception. So for me, inner satisfaction and approval depend on my level of inner awareness.
Between working with Jaxin and watching a TED talk by Brené Brown on vulnerability, I began to experience a profound shift. There was a specific message that I received, and that message was this:
“Acceptance comes as a result of sharing what’s in our hearts, regardless of the outcome.”
It clicked. I understood that acceptance was no one else’s responsibility. It was my own. The first step toward it was vulnerability. Vulnerability is courageous. Courage comes from the Latin word cor, which means heart.
I began to share what was in my heart, regardless of the outcome, in my classes, with my boyfriend, with my clients, with my friends, in my articles, and I began to experience something beautiful.
Showing up and sharing was no longer about the feedback or responses I got from others. It was about me doing my part. It was about showing up as the best version of myself, without hiding the things I assumed other people wouldn’t love.
I began to apply this into my daily life as a spiritual practice. I began to give fully, to speak my truth openly, to share what was in my heart each day, regardless of the outcome, and I experienced the joy of connecting with people like never before.
I was no longer trying to be perfect, but rather letting them see me exactly the way I was.
I was finally able to see my boyfriend through loving eyes, becoming aware of everything that was awesome about him instead of picking out what was wrong about him.
I was able to share, personally and professionally, from a place of authenticity and vulnerability. I was no longer taking responsibility for what others did or did not get from my sharing, because I knew my only job was to generously and unconditionally give what sat in my heart and to surrender the rest.
As a result, my relationships became even more powerful, even more mutually nourishing, and even more effective.
Everything began to flow in abundant ways after this awareness blossomed within me, which has been a huge help for me now that I am back in the U.S. and spending time with family.
Our loved ones have the ability to show us our deepest, darkest corners of insecurity, self-judgments, and inner disapproval.
As a result, we typically end up pointing the finger at them and complaining about how imperfect they are. This trip home has been different for me than trips in the past.
I have always assumed my family thinks certain things, that they judge me, or are disappointed in me for not being what they may have wanted me to be.
Now, however, when I see myself in conversations with them and the old programs come up, telling these stories of their disapproval of me, in that moment I can soften. I can recognize the pain that is present in us all in that moment. I can have compassion for them and myself.
I can reaffirm that I know who I am, I know what I’ve achieved in my life, and I know what amazing things I am up to; and therefore, I don’t have to demand their approval.
I can consciously choose to let go of the old stories, the boxes I have put us in, the need to prove anything, and instead I can re-examine things with fresh eyes that have only one goal: to love myself and them.
Even if my assumptions about my family were right, which is unlikely, with inner satisfaction and approval, I can still be happy and okay in the face of other people who may think, feel, and see things differently than I do.
Awareness is what opens the pair of internal eyes that we need to see what is going on onside of us. Awareness will shine the inner flashlight on the internal fear and criticism. It will show us where we are currently operating and offer us the opportunity to upgrade.
I am not inviting you to fix or change yourself. I simply invite you to turn on the flashlight within and see what happens. I invite you to become willing to surrender to the process that will follow such awareness, and to stay committed to your intention to accept yourself and others.
A.S
I started the course as a young man who had learnt a lot about the culture of sustainable living. I had a deep desire to contribute my skills to this industry. I was so immobilised by the pressure I placed upon myself to do this successfully, I could hardly act. I had Ideas but no capacity to deliver my message through a product or service. Who do I know myself to be today? A courageous, persistent student of small business management. An entertainer with talent and a positive message for sustainable living. A strong young man, eager to learn more and continue taking action toward what I love. Understanding of my own ability and not so violently critical of myself. Eager to balance work and play. I could probably go on, but this will do for the gloating right now. Am I on track with my purpose. Yes. Absolutely yes. Sometimes a bit disorganised and frustrated, but being my own boss is meant to be fun and each day I am strengthening in that regard. I am not so much choosing my projects to work on I am setting my intention and choosing what opportunities I want to do that show up. I check in if they are in alignment with what I want to learn, live and share. If yes pursue. If no, leave for somebody else to have and do. Here is a list of what I have gained from doing Jaxin's coaching. Clarity. Clarity and a bit more clarity. A fresh relationship with self. I am more playful, forgiving and nurturing. Not letting panic ruin my day. Allowing doubt to be digested. To sleep and return when rested. Assurance, that I have skills, that I have something to offer and that I will deliver. Expressing who I am, what I do and what I dream. Talking and walking what I am and what I want. Being in allowance of my next step. Upon completion I can breathe again. I have never felt so capable and qualified to pursue my passion through entertainment. Deliver a message of hope for a world less polluted without becoming a deranged hippie activist. Hell Yeah!
Sharon Steele-Davies
Here we are at the end of this part of our journey together. I want to thank you from my heart for your patience, compassion and invaluable guidance. Your ability to go wherever necessary and to do whatever it takes to make changes at a foundational level, is truly remarkable. I certainly would not have been able to do it without you.
Prior to Career by Design I was constantly “doing” for others and fearful of stepping out in my own right. Thinking others knew more/better what was best for me. Feeling “less than” in so many areas of my life. Through the process of finding my purpose and what I wanted to contribute, for myself and others, has been an amazing journey through the many highs and lows. I had been around the same circuit forever so it has taken some deep digging to get me out of the grove that I had previously been unable to get out of.
I got for myself to trust in myself and my intuition. Acceptance of self and others.
I learnt that I have a system which works for me of being methodical, systematic and structured while also allowing intuition, creativity and flexibility – yes they can co-exist! To keep taking action! even if it is baby steps. ACTION, ACTION, ACTION pause and on that, that a pause is just a pause, not the end, it is time to re-gather and re-assess. I have come to understand that sometimes goals change along the way and that is OK. Duty to myself before others works well. To be authentic, even if you think it is going to upset someone else ensures good flow and that having compassion for myself and others is not just important but an absolute. Working with you Jaxin and getting use to saying NO to others or situations has had me realise that it does not necessarily mean that it has to be wrong or bad, it’s just not right for me, at the time. I have gained confidence in my own abilities and through that came peace of mind, knowing I am doing/being the best I can be.
I am sure there is so much more that I could add to this list, that I am unable to bring to mind right now. It is difficult to remember how I was before we started. I view things so differently, it has literally turned my world upside down. I feel deeply honoured that you have stuck with me when I am sure at times you must have felt I was just not getting it. All along the way Jaxin you have had the patience of a Saint and kept along side me, which encouraged me to keep going. I have learned so much about myself that I really had not acknowledged was there (yes the good, bad and the ugly). You have given me the tools to enable me to take action. It has been so worth it, your intuitive heart centered coaching has cleared so much of what was in the way of me achieving my purpose and living a fulfilling life. I am excited and looking forward to living an authentic life of contribution. Thanks Jaxin.